A first date is always fraught with uncertainities. You are worried about making a good first impression, wondering what she’ll think of you, and what in the world are you two going to talk about.
But it need not be like this. You need to remember that she’s going through the same uncertainities as you and is as eager to make a good impression.
So why do two perfectly nice people, eager to like and be liked usually end up making a mess of their first date? The following tips are aimed at helping you get over the hurdles of your first few dates smoothly..
If you are supposed to call her, make sure that you call on time and are at complete leisure to talk to her. Also, ensure that there are no background noises or any other external disturbances. The same applies for when you have given her a time to call you up.
Not only will you get to know her interests, likes and dislikes, but also get an idea of what she’s looking for, besides a few topics for conversation. If you both have common interests, you’ll invariably find a lot to talk about, otherwise you could ask her a few leading questions about them.
Remember that you are at your best when you are relaxed. If you are nervous about how to begin the conversation, you could start with asking her what made her send/accept your invitation. Once you both have got past the initial awkwardness, you’ll find it easier to talk.. just go with the flow. Smile when you pick the phone, she’ll hear the smile in your voice
Tell her about what got you interested in her. Be liberal with your compliments, they always work; but not too much. Women instinctively know whether your appreciation is genuine or faked. You could compliment her on her hair style, her dressing sense, her smile, or even her voice.
On an ending note, ask her when would be the right time to call next. If however, she asks then give her a time when you will be free and able to talk at your leisure and without any disturbances. Do not ask for her email or phone number, she’ll give you her contact information herself once she feels comfortable enough with you.